Saturday, December 4, 2010

The Guilt

One of the downfalls of being a working mom is that every now and then you get a wave of guilt.  Parenting books do not often speak kindly of working parents and it can be really grinding.  

After having such an amazing time at home over Thanksgiving Break with my family, going back to work again was surprisingly difficult.

I cherish every moment I can spend with my daughter.  Staying home is not an option for me as far as taking care of my family goes.  With Doc finishing medical school, we depend on my income.  

I love my job.  I'm good at it, it's fulfilling, and I am extremely grateful to have the opportunity to do what I love everyday.  Sometimes it is just a little difficult to move past the guilt I feel when Little Bird doesn't want me to drop her off in the morning at daycare.

So!  Here are positive solutions to missing my daughter/feeling guilty about not being able to stay at home with her all the time:
1.) Read parenting books/websites/blogs to come up with ways to make the time I get with her as valuable as possible.
2.) Plan things to do with Little Bird when I get off work
3.) Continue to remind myself that I will get to have every holiday break, including the Summer, to spend with her.

Little Bird is a happy child. She shows no signs of being impaired because I have to work.  This is, I think, one of those things we get in our heads when we are responsible for someone.  I just need to relax and stop worrying about it!


  1. My mom worked. I honestly believe I have a better personality and social skills because of it! Do not worry about being a working mom!

  2. You're a better parenting book than anything I can find on a shelf. Guilt will come and go, but (you've said it to me a million and one times) you know what's best for Evie. That's all there is to it!

    I like staying at home with Bella, but I'll tell you now, when the kids are in school, I'm RUNNING to find at least a part time job. Or be very involved at the school.

    And then there is the whole summer thing, like you mentioned. Its kinda like the best of both worlds!

  3. You gotta do what you can. Evelyn is greatly benefiting from you working, she just is too young to know this. You working is for her. Everything you do is for her and that's what makes a great mom.