Ok. There are a lot of opinions on self soothing. This is where your baby learns to calm themselves down when they are upset. I know that my mother's generation is often very pro "crying it out" where you let your baby essentially cry themself to sleep or cry until they are all cried out. This might work for some babies. This might work for your baby. My rule for mothering has been to go with my instincts so far, and my instincts say that this is not an okay thing for Evelyn. We are attempting now to help her set her own schedule. At 3 months, most babies start getting into a routine as far as naps and bedtime go. So, we're trying to lay her down for naps around the time she usually gets sleepy instead of letting her just conk out somewhere. And now the self soothing becomes an issue.
So I'm trying to forgo "crying it out" for my kiddo. Doc and I know this will be a frustrating choice, but I don't believe that Evelyn really cries for no reason. I do think she cries because she is so tired she doesn't know what to do. I remember learning about the Trust vs. Mistrust phase in developmental psychology. I think being there for her when she is upset is important even if I can't really do anything to help her.
Sounds good in theory. Let's see if it works.